AM I IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP?
Take the test
1- 🤷🏽♂️ Is there often an abrupt change in the relationship between harmony and arguments?
2- 🤷🏽♂️ Do apparently void occasions sometimes lead to major arguments?
3- 🤷🏽♂️ And is it that even if the occasion was void at first, you feel guilty afterwards because you should feel guilty?
4- 🤷🏽♂️ Is it that even the greatest adaptation efforts do not help to avoid new arguments again and again?
5- 🤷🏽♂️ Do you have the feeling that your partner's values and claims can change in a flash, so that you would like to have a recording of what has been said so far to be able to refute it (Blame-Shifting)?
6- 🤷🏽♂️ Does your partner often ask for closeness and is then when you are together somehow absent?
7- 🤷🏽♂️ Is it often the case that you don't meet friends, sports partners and family members because of the relationship?
8- Does your partner often stay caught longer, so that everyday life and night sleep also suffer?
9- 🤷🏽♂️ Does the partner often threaten to end the relationship, since it is apparently your fault?
10- 🤷🏽♂️ Does your partner often fail to stick to agreements?
11- 🤷🏽♂️ Do you often feel like your partner is not there for you, especially when it hits you particularly hard?
12- 🤷🏽♂️ If you need him especially, does he even tend to reproach you?
13- 🤷🏽♂️ Do you neglect your hobbies?
14- 🤷🏽♂️ Do you sometimes feel like you can no longer trust yourself and your perception? (possibly through gas lighting)
15- 🤷🏽♂️ Have you acquired sleep disorders in the course of the relationship?
16- 🤷🏽♂️ Are there abrupt changes between idealization (love bombing) by him and absolute devaluation?
If at least 8 points apply, you may be in a toxic relationship.